So we're on the countdown for the wedding. We've booked the winery and a DJ for August, 2007. We have a pretty good idea of when we want it to begin and end. Now filling in the rest becomes the hard part. Choice of entree? Besides wine, we are responsible for all alcohol. I know I'm pleased with vodka, but what do other people drink? As far as food, we are also responsible for dessert. Should we have a small, elegant wedding cake with sheet cakes to serve for backup or cupcakes/petit fors?
So many unanswered questions. The reception could go awhile. Should we have fruit and a chocolate fountain towards the end of the night to soak up all that alcohol? How much is it to rent one of those things, anyway? Kareoke the last few hours or just head out to a bar for an after party? Our DJ is only 50 bucks every additional hour. If not a bar, should we after party in a hotel room? 
For our Save The Dates, should we incorporate the wine theme or go with the generic couple photo route? We were asking the groomsmen to be groomsmen and one told us he already received a save the date for the same day. If we wait, is January too late to be sending them out? Should we face our guests during the informal ceremony? Should we have a receiving line? Is it too bitchy to ask guests to smoke on the deck, outside only? Should we have a shuttle from a designated place in town to the winery (since it's quite a ways and there will be much alcohol consumed)? If so, how would we arrange the times to and from? Two trips each? What if an out of towner "misses the bus"? 
Should the girls wear all the same dresses or cooridinate? Should Payton, the bridesmaid, be the only one in a different dress (besides Britain, the flower girl)? Should Matt walk Britain down the aisle?So many questions like these run through my head every day (and night). Why do so many things matter for one single day?
7 comments:
This looks odd.
Anyway, you should do what ever you want to do. Tell Matt just to go along with you except on the tux.
But mostly you should just get married and have a wonderful time
I have to disagree on that comment. The wedding should be planned and agreed on by both the bride and the groom. Expecting the groom to blindly accept the bride's decisions isn't fair at all.
I'm not saying Tam is going to turn into a Bridezilla, but I had to bring my wife down to earth on a few of her ideas, and I'd be broke or institutionalized by the stress if I had just said "Whatever you want" to everything.
In other news, the former Way 2 Ghetto on 10th and Liberty had a family of cockroaches evicted. Who would've expected that one?
We had the world's simplest non-eloping wedding. What's important is the marriage and I think you're grounded there :)
That said, go with the wine theme! That's fun :) Why not embrace what's making it different?
If you want no smoking, there is no smoking. Period. You could say it's the winery's policy ;)
You could have dresses all in the same shade (same fabric as well would be even better) but individual styles. Brit should match you both, IMO. I think that's how the photos will look best.
In Jewish weddings, the parents wait at the midway point and escort the child up the aisle (men and women). Matt could meet Brit at the halfway point. Will you be "given away" or will you walk alone or with Matt or maybe w/ Brit? It would be cute if she walked w/ you & he met you. As if to say, "First we are a family, now we are getting married." Just my thought :)
Oooh! I like Eden's idea of you and Brit walking in together! Seriously though, all this stuff is gravy. You feed us, you give us drinks, we're going to be happy. And I know I'm invited because you're hoping for another photo cd montage. It's already in the works.
I think you two are too classy for the generic couple STD, but honestly it's whatever youse guys want. And January is not too late, although we can certainly move it up if you like, no problem.
I like Eden's ideas too :)
The winery idea is soooo cool. You may inspire a wedding/reception venue for myself one day :)
Tam...once upon a time, I got married...
Do it exactly how YOU and MATT want to do it. I learned that lesson. In the end, we decided the day was about us. It didn't matter what everyone else thought. I didn't know what to do about the bridemaids dresses because everyone was different sizes, so I told them to buy a black dress and had them wear matching shoes. You will freak out about the littlest things and when the wedding is a few days away wish you had gone to Vegas. But, I would marry Tom all over again. :) If you ever need anything, let me know.
I agree that you tow should be involved, and certainly issues of scope need to be determined, but I don't think there needs to be an heated debate about each item especially when the most important thing is what the wedding signifies and not the flowers and table decorations.
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